You Learn By Living

And sometimes by reading

When Eleanor Roosevelt was 76, she wrote You Learn By Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life.

If you don’t have time for the whole book, consider her wisdom in these quotes from it:

“Happiness is not a goal, it is a by-product. Paradoxically, the one sure way not to be happy is deliberately to map out a way of life in which one would please oneself completely and exclusively. After a short time, a very short time, there would be little that one really enjoyed. For what keeps our interest in life and makes us look forward to tomorrow is giving pleasure to other people.”

Someone once asked me what I regarded as the three most important requirements for happiness. My answer was, ‘A feeling that you have been honest with yourself and those around you; a feeling that you have done the best you could both in your personal life and in your work; and the ability to love others.”

“It’s your life — but only if you make it so. The standards by which you live must be your own standards, your own values, your own convictions in regard to what is right and wrong, what is true and false, what is important and what is trivial. When you adopt the standards and values of someone else or a community or a pressure group, you surrender your own integrity. You become, to the extent of your surrender, less of a human being.”

Our world, and our industry within that world, needs more humanity, more voices willing to be heard when we witness, or are an active party to, dehumanizing decisions.

No true idea can be hurt by becoming more moral and human.