Some Thoughts on Grief

Where to turn…

I still can’t bring myself to get back to normal blog topics. Maybe tomorrow.

So today, I point you to someone who has helped me during times of grief and loss: Anne Lamott, from her wonderful book, Tender Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith.


Rubble is the ground on which our deepest friendships are built. I have survived so much loss, as all of us have by this time…my parents, dear friends, beloved pets. If you haven’t already, you will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken — and the bad news is that you will never completely get over that loss. But the good news is that they will live forever, in your broken heart that never heals. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly, that still hurts when the weather is cold — but you learn to dance with the limp. You dance to the absurdities of life; you dance to the minuet of old friendships and old loves.”

Her’s is an uncommon voice. She will help you laugh, and she knows grief intimately, so she’s pretty great with that part of life too.

If you haven’t read this book, trust me on this one. Buy it this week. It will help.

And if you know someone in Colorado who could use a lift, just send this book their way.